Couples Counseling in Olympia, WA: What to Expect and How to Get Started

Quick Answer: Couples counseling at Creative Wellness in Olympia is led by Dr. David Simonsen, who has over 25 years of experience working with couples. Sessions are $180 for 60 minutes, available in person or by secure video, and focus on practical work - communication, conflict, trust, and shared goals - without fluff or judgment.
Most couples don't come to counseling because everything is fine. They come because something has shifted - communication has gotten harder, the same arguments keep coming back, trust has been damaged, or they've drifted somewhere they didn't plan to be. Some couples are in crisis. Some just want to get back to feeling like a team.
When couples counseling makes sense
There isn't a single right moment to start. Some common reasons people get in touch:
- Communication has broken down. Conversations turn into arguments, or stop happening at all. One or both partners feel unheard.
- The same fight keeps coming back. You've talked about it. You've agreed to change. Nothing actually changes, and you're back in the same place a few weeks later.
- Trust has been damaged. Infidelity, dishonesty, broken commitments - and you're trying to decide if and how to rebuild.
- You feel like roommates, not partners. Physical and emotional connection has faded. You're going through the motions.
- A major life change is straining things. A new baby, a career change, an illness, a move, kids leaving home, retirement. Big transitions tend to expose cracks.
- You disagree on something fundamental. Money, parenting, intimacy, where to live, whether to stay together at all.
You don't need to wait for things to be bad. Couples come for tune-ups too - to strengthen what's working and address small things before they become big ones.
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Who you'll be working with
Couples counseling at Creative Wellness is led by Dr. David Simonsen, who has over 25 years of experience working with couples. The approach is practical and direct - not clinical detachment, not endless processing. The goal is real progress on the things that brought you in.
The work tends to be future-focused: where are we now, where are we trying to get to, and what specifically needs to change to get there. Past hurts come up - they have to- but they're addressed in service of moving forward, not as the endpoint.
What happens in a session
Sessions are 60 minutes. They're available in person at our
Olympia location, or by secure video if that works better for your schedule or living situation.
A first session usually involves:
- Hearing both perspectives. Each partner gets space to describe what's going on from their side, without being interrupted or corrected.
- Identifying the patterns. Most couples aren't fighting about the dishes - they're fighting about the same one or two underlying dynamics that show up in different forms. Naming those patterns is half the work.
- Setting some shared goals. What would "better" actually look like? Concrete enough to know whether you're getting there.
After the first session, the work tends to settle into a rhythm. You might focus on specific communication tools, work through a recent conflict, address trust repair, or talk through a decision that has you stuck. Sessions are tailored to where you are - not a fixed program every couple goes through.
What it costs
Couples counseling at Creative Wellness is $180 per 60-minute session.
Many insurance plans cover couples or family therapy when there's a medical diagnosis attached for one partner (depression, anxiety, adjustment disorder, etc.). Coverage varies significantly by plan - we can verify your benefits before you commit. For couples without coverage or who prefer to pay out of pocket, the $180 rate applies as self-pay.
Do both partners need to come every time?
Ideally yes, but it's not a hard rule. Sometimes one partner attends solo to work on their own piece. Sometimes one is reluctant at first and joins later. Real change usually requires both people, but the dynamic can start to shift even when only one person is doing the work initially.
Is this therapy or coaching?
There's overlap, but the work tends to be more action-focused than traditional therapy — less time on childhood and underlying mental health diagnoses, more time on what's happening between the two of you and what you're going to do about it. If one partner has individual mental health needs that need attention, those can be addressed through our individual therapy or medication management services alongside the couples work.
What if we're not sure we want to stay together?
Counseling isn't a "save the relationship at all costs" service — it's a space to figure out what you actually want. Sometimes that ends in renewed commitment. Sometimes it ends in a more thoughtful, less destructive separation. Both are valid outcomes.
What if one of us is resistant to coming?
It's common. The reluctant partner doesn't need to be enthusiastic — they just need to be willing to come once. Most arrive expecting it to feel awkward and leave feeling more positive than they expected.
Can we do couples counseling remotely?
Yes. Sessions are available via secure video call, useful for couples with demanding work schedules, shared childcare, or partners who travel.
How long does it take?
It varies. Some couples see meaningful change in a few sessions. Others need longer. We don't sell packages or push minimum commitments - you come back if it's working, you stop when you've gotten what you needed.























